They are the worst type.
No, it's not the ISFj, or INFp, or even INTp. It's ENFp. I really, really, hate these guys.
I don't have or want to spend the energy dumping all of my hate-thoughts, but here are some quick reasons:
- If they hate you, they know exactly how to paint you in the worst possible light. Thereby rounding up everybody against you.
And unfortunately, I'm actually really defenseless against this "witch hunt" attack because "winning people over" is not something I pay a lot of attention to.
This type of thing has happened twice to me now. In the first instance, I got absolutely destroyed. In the second, I'm hanging on only because an ISFp dual has mitigated much of the damage. - It is really easy for me to piss these guys off.
- They tend to play with relationships a lot, which absolutely destroys me because relationships are exactly the thing I am most weak at.
Some especially apt quotes from http://www.socionics.com/articles/unenfp.html
- "In the interpersonal sphere, he'll use his amazing gift for communication to "rally support," gaining sympathy from all of his friends and turning them against YOU."
I've seen this twice now -- and it's pretty horrible :( - "In extreme cases, where weaseling won't absolve him of criticism, he'll disparage himself, telling everyone that he is good for nothing and really to blame for every problem in the relationship or the company. This is actually his strategy for easily getting out of situations that no longer feed his ego."
Happening right NOW (as of 6/29/13). It's pretty horifically "dramatic." I'd post a link, but then it'd compromise my identity, and it's probably best to keep his privacy as well.
Not sure if this is current anymore BUT:
ReplyDeleteMaintain your own reputation by treating them civilly. Don't spend extra time with them if you don't have to, but don't let others see you are avoiding them either. Smile and pretend you don't notice anything. Treat him and his friends like neutral strangers. This behavior will eventually wear his supporters down as they start wondering "Who is this guy??? How does he not notice???" (If any bystanders are paying attention to this, you might attract THEM too)
And then they'll start talking to you more. When this happens, your "enemy" will become nervous and attack you less (in fear of losing his own supporters).
“First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, and then you win.” Mahatma Gandhi
You'll get through this!
Hey Schweepy,
DeleteThanks for the support :). This whole incident is definitely behind me now, thank goodness. For about a month now, I've been firing on all cylinders in school, part-time job, and some /really/ cool projects I've been working on.
Thanks! :)
--j0ker
By the way, sorry for the really late reply....I'm not usually looking for comments on these posts so your comments just slipped past my attention.
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